A man of twenty-eight years bought a piece of land to farm. But there, in the middle of his future-plowed field, stood firmly a tree of over two-hundred years.

She lifted high, shading him in the summer heat. Her branches extended out wide and crooked. No human hands, especially of a human man, had ever trimmed her thick twig hair.

She had not had a fresh cut since a night in 2010. (A tree remembers these things.) Nature took its hands — lightning and wind — and broke an old limb from her torso. …

For the bulk of my young life, my most vivid memories are of me wanting or waiting to die.

Life’s strange that way.

As a kid, I couldn’t imagine growing up. Yes, I wanted to be bigger, and stronger, and more independent. But as I aged, my body changed in ways I didn’t expect — ways which felt wrong, twisted, and diseased.

This body betrayed me. I had the mind of a boy but the body of a girl.

I gained hips. I gained breasts. Nature didn’t care that I was transgender.

Overnight, boys found me something good to look…

I am a straight trans man, and in my 28 years of life, I have never, ever dated someone.

You read that right.

I’m nearly 30 years old, and I’ve never been on a date.

I know this might seem like a red flag to prospective future romantic interests, but I swear, I can explain.

For the longest time, I never knew my reality as a trans man. Growing up in the rural South, I never heard of trans. …

The diagnosis took us all by surprise. My sister, a mother of two in her early thirties, had aggressive multiple sclerosis.

While not completely disabling for all of those diagnosed with the disease, MS in its aggressive form quickly took its grip on Rachell. Her legs grew numb. The numbness spread to her waist and down. Her speech is slurred and her vision blurry.

Rachell cannot drive. She cannot work. She cannot make her own meals, take her own showers, or dress. Within a year, my independent sister is now fully dependent on our mother and me.

Rachell’s dream had…

This morning I woke up to a wonderful email from the Oklahoma Employment Security Commission, which manages our state’s unemployment benefits.

“On Dec. 4, the U.S. Department of Labor informed the Oklahoma Employment Security Commission that Oklahoma no longer meets the requirements for the State Extended Benefits program, which extended unemployment benefits for up to 13 weeks,” the email read. “The program will end on Saturday, Dec. 12.”

This message came after we were first told benefits would end Dec. 26 — the day after Christmas.

Now myself, and thousands of other Americans across the U.S., …

One of the first things my mother said to me when I came out as trans was, “Can’t you just be a boy on the inside and a girl on the outside?

It hurt.

We were headed down the highway to the closest clinic prescribing hormones. An hour-and-a-half away and across state lines, I figured the drive would be a good time to discuss my transness with her. I would have my first testosterone shot that day and brought her along as support.

“Because I’m not a girl,” I remember saying. “I never was.”

I understood Mom’s worries. I had…

Around age 14, Mom bought me my first desktop computer. Computers were new to me. I didn’t even own a cellphone yet. I thought my oversized Zune MP3 player was high tech. The idea of a computer — and the Internet — overwhelmed my mid-2000s teenage mind.

I busied my time after school with MySpace and Quizilla. I used YouTube to find new music. I watched Evanescence music videos on repeat to soothe my teenage angst. The computer offered an outlet I couldn’t find in my rural Oklahoma life.

And it is through the Internet I discovered my love for…

I remember the day he died. My heart collapsed. My sister fell to the floor. The world crumbled under our feet and the only thing we could manage to say was, “Are you sure it’s him?”

At the time of my brother Jon’s death in 2016, he had been the first immediate family member to die. We were unfamiliar with death until then.

Mom used to say, “We’re lucky. We haven’t had anyone close to us die yet.” Then Jon died. Then Dad died. Then Grandma died.

In a few years’ time, we went from strangers to intimately familiar with…